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Play to Spice up Your Sex Life

 

Play to Spice up Your Sex Life!
 
 There's nothing like play to put the 'X' factor into your love life.  So don those blindfolds, share those fantasies, talk ever-so-dirty and get ready to surprise....
 
 
'Strip!!
 
Get a pack of cards and play strip poker. It may seem like something you’d have done in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip poker is a really fun way to get naked. Once you are both as nature intended (or nearly there), the fun begins. A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on each action means that it’s a prolonged game of seduction. By the end you’ll be clamouring to be both winners and losers! There are many other games you can play the "strip" version of - as long as there is a regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The really exciting thing about these games is that it creates a relaxed environment in which you can both ask for what you want. You may want your partner to do something familiar but in a different way or you may want to do something you haven’t done before. With the right – risqué – attitude it can all get rather steamy and lead to some pretty raunchy sex!
 
Blindfold
 
Blindfolding your partner exaggerates their sensory awareness. Blindfolded, they don't know where you are or what you’re going to do next!  This ‘teasing’ heightens anticipation and tension so that when release comes it’s really explosive. Tease your partner with sensual objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites the nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful not to over-stimulate the nerve endings, however, because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation is dulled.
 
Give instructions
 
If you’ve been together a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way. After a while this just becomes ‘the way it’s done’. But its rarely the case that we know our partner’s every like and dislike. And of course people change! There’s always something you haven’t tried and there’s bound to be something you generally do that could be done differently. Why not have a ‘lesson session’. Suspend the belief that you know it all already and hand yourselves over to each other in turn as ‘teacher’. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner and give it a try.
 
Dressing up
 
Stepping out of the role of being "yourself" can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations and try things that you haven’t done before. And if it doesn’t work out – well, it wasn’t you!!
 
Share your fantasies
 
Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very intimate form of sex play. It opens up deep lines of communication with your partner and helps you get to know and trust each other better which is conducive to better sex. Keep it light at first. Don’t throw each other in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren't sure about.
 
Massage
 
Sensual touch is one of the most relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner. A relaxing sensual massage can open your body to some very intense orgasms and more satisfying sex. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. Don't relax your partner too deeply though – he may fall straight to sleep!
 
Dirty talk
 
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has something other sex play doesn’t: language. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically -- especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic. Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it, ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here).
 
Try a new position
 
 
There’s no limit to the number of ways to have sex. Use your imagination to generate as many weird and wonderful inventions as your heart desires. Simply changing locations can dramatically change the position and dynamic. So experiment – how about on top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag or your dining table? 

 

 

 

Useful Books and Sites

 

Informed Book Choice:  'How to Have Magnificent Sex: Improve Your Relationship and Start to Have the Best Sex of Your Life' by Lana Holstein.  Click here for details....

 


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